But there’s so much personal stuff with the funeral business, so much stuff that affects US, that it’s almost impossible to leave things there. So that stress, baggage, angst that we pick up in the funeral business often gets taken out on those closest to us in our personal lives. While I hope nobody is in a relationship with someone who views them as inferior, most of us tend to be in relationships with people we perceive as equals. See, generally, we take out our problems on those we see as our equals or those we see as inferior. If you’ve been in the business long enough, you know not to take it personally, but it’s nonetheless difficult to take a capricious verbal lashing for no apparent reason other than transference.īut here’s how it affects relationships: funeral directors too often do the same, especially to their significant others. Often times, they take their problems, their anger, their frustration and instead of dealing with their grief and bereavement, they take it out on us.
Some people we deal with have major problems and baggage that gets fanned to flame by grief and bereavement. Transference is a psychological term that funeral directors have some practical experience dealing with. This world is too dark and scary.”Īfter a good day at work: “WE SHOULD HAVE CHILDREN RIGHT NOW!!!”
I suppose we all suffer from that problem.Īfter a bad day at work: “I don’t think we should have children. Other times, that stress is so overwhelming we don’t even want to be touched.įuneral Director Dude (while having sex): Oh, Laurel! I love you so much!
CALEB WILDE FUNERAL DIRECTOR PROFESSIONAL
Because sex - for some - is a natural stress diffuser, and when we’re under professional stress on a constant basis, our desire for that physical relief can - at times - be overwhelmingly strong. For those who work around trauma, death, and grief, those drives seem to go to utter extremes. For all of us, our sex drive can be seemingly unpredictable. And surprisingly, the show Six Feet Under captured this well in the complexity of their characters. The Jekyll and Hyde Syndrome also affects our physical relationships with our partners. And the fact that we give good backrubs has nothing to do with the fact that we’re constantly massaging the dead to make sure the embalming fluid get’s evenly distributed throughout the decedent’s corpse. When death is so demanding, all other relationships become mistresses. It’s tempting too, because when we can fulfill the needs of death, it can create a kind of co-dependent relationship where we fulfill the needs of death and death fulfills our needs of feeling important.
Death is always asking, always needy, always calling and texting. It asks for us in sickness and in health, night and day, in good times and bad. I tend to pick the easy jokes, but bear with me because this is a thing, a thing that NOBODY TALKS ABOUT.īecause when you work in a profession that sees nearly 80% of their workforce burn out before they hit the five-year mark of employment, you can bet that their love lives are a little different than most. You’re just looking to write a post that lets you pluck the low hanging jokes, like ‘Funeral directors can make you stiff’, etc.” You got me there.
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